Dear Brothers and Sisters in Christ,

It will soon be April Fools’ Day. Surfing the internet will give you ideas for jokes to play on family, friends and coworkers—such as waiting for a coworker to leave the office, then placing a sticky note on their desk regarding a missed call from a “Mr. Baer” with a call back number to the local zoo. If you prefer a female name you could use “Ella Font.” Or try the non-gender-specific name, “G. Raffe.” On second thought—maybe not. We should have pity on the poor zoo office staff!

Providing that no one is hurt physically or emotionally, April Fools’ jokes can be fun, reminding us that we are gullible creatures who all-too-easily can be taken in by ridiculous ideas that seem plausible. Sometimes I wonder if an entire generation is falling prey to a hoax that is far more serious and dangerous than any April Fools’ Day joke. Liberals and materialists are conning a growing number of people (20-somethings in particular) into believing that the institution of marriage is outdated. This idea is no joke—it’s a terrible lie.

Only 26 percent of the Millennial Generation (sometimes called Gen Y)—those born between 1980 and 1995—are married, compared with 48 percent of Baby Boomers at the same age. That is not stopping the Millennials from having babies. In 2012, nearly half of the children born to Millennial Generation women entered the world without the benefit of marriage. This has drastically increased the risks to children and their mothers as indicated by extensive surveying conducted by the US Bureau of Justice (summarized at www.heritage.org/research/reports/2004/03/marriage-still-the-safest-place-for-women-and-children). Here are some of the conclusions drawn from the survey data:

• married women with children suffer far less abuse than single mothers
• married women with children are far less likely to suffer from violent crime in general or at the hands of intimate acquaintances or strangers
• children of divorced or never-married mothers are 6 to 30 times more likely to suffer from serious child abuse than are children raised by both biological parents in marriage
• never-married mothers experience more domestic abuse
• never-married mothers experience violent crime at more than twice the rate of mothers who are or had at one time been married

Just when the materialists would have us believe that traditional marriage and sexual fidelity are outdated…here comes the US Center for Disease Control (CDC) with a rather dire warning:

The CDC has issued a report detailing its findings in attempting to trace the increasing difficulty in treating gonorrhea, a sexually transmitted disease (STD) that can cause severe discomfort, serious medical problems (such as sterility) for both genders and in very rare cases, death. The overriding conclusion of the researchers is that the world is now sitting on the precipice of losing the ability to fight a major bacterial infection. Worse perhaps, is that it may mark the first of many others to come. Gonorrhea infections typically only last for a few weeks or months, in most cases the immune system eventually wins over (after the disease has caused sometimes irreparable damage). The same cannot be said for some other bacterial infections that may also soon become untreatable. For that reason, scientists around the world continue to scramble to find alternatives. In the meantime, the CDC is predicting that the spread of treatment-resistant gonorrhea is imminent, and because of that the country (and the rest of the world) will soon begin to experience widespread outbreaks (posted at http://medicalxpress.com/news/2014-03-cdc-gonorrhea-verge-untreatable.html).

At the risk of being considered “old fogies,” we as preachers and teachers have the responsibility to uphold Biblical family values and moral standards.

As stated in GCI’s standard wedding ceremony, marriage is a divine institution ordained of God. Family values are thus not just matters of conservative political rhetoric. Nor are they merely theological “good ideas.” Though biblical, family values are not exclusive to Christians—most world religions uphold them as matters of common good. As the statistics cited above and at right indicate, we as a society ignore these values and related moral standards to our peril.

Let us in GCI work together to reinforce with our people (young and old) the importance of family values, including traditional marriage and sexual fidelity. But—and please note that this is very important—I said reinforce, not enforce.

Sadly, many churches overreact to sex-related sin by placing it in a category of special evil. But Scripture doesn’t do that—sexual sin is no worse (nor better) than other categories, though sexual sins do have a unique potential for consequences that can negatively impact lives for multiple generations.

I realize that people within our fellowship make mistakes—sometimes serious ones. Sometimes this happens before conversion and sometimes after. But whatever the particular circumstance, let us be a denomination that is a safe place—a place where single parents and their children find loving acceptance, friendship and family-like support, which so often is withheld by our society at large (sadly, even by some Christians). Of course, accepting those who have sinned, is not the same as condoning the sin.

So please—no hell-fire-and-brimstone sermons against promiscuity. But do lovingly encourage your members of all ages to uphold and reflect biblical family values and related moral standards. Let’s help our people guard against the cruel hoax that is so much more serious than a harmless April Fools’ Day joke.

Your brother in Christ,