Anam Cara

Greg and Susan Williams
Greg and Susan Williams

Dear GCI Family and Friends,

World Friendship Day, also known as International Day of Friendship, takes place on July 30th.

The original idea for a day of friendship came from Hallmark cards in the 1930s and was originally celebrated on August 2. The cynical public largely viewed the day as a money-making scheme by Hallmark. Sales of friendship day cards did not take off in Europe and by the mid-1940s the day had faded into obscurity in the USA. However, the idea of a day to honor friendship was adopted by a number of countries in Asia, where it remained a popular custom to reserve a day for celebrating friendships and the exchange of gifts between friends. I’d suggest this speaks to the understanding of the importance of relationships in the Asian culture, which is a strong biblical theme.

The Bible says a lot about the importance of friendship. Here are a few choice verses in Proverbs ESV

  • Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
  • Proverbs 18:24 A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
  • Proverbs 27:9 Oil and perfume make the heart glad, and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel.
  • Proverbs 27:5-6 Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.

The overall theme is that a friend is a companion who can tell you the truth, and who shows up especially in the difficulties of life. The question, “Who can you call at 2:00 am when you are in dire straits?” is quite telling. How long is your personal list?

Having a relationship where you are accepted, understood and well cared for is the most valuable treasure. Anam Cara is a concept that I was introduced to when I participated in an experiential graduate class called Celtic Spirituality. Anam Cara is a Celtic phrase meaning “soul friend.”

Dr. William P. Ryan describes Anam Cara as “compassionate presence,” a person who knows your heart and intent. In the companionship of a soul friend, you are recognized and known providing a deep sense of trust and belonging. Every one of us needs true, genuine friendship for our spiritual development and growth, and especially for our personal sense of worth and belonging.

Personally, I am blessed with spiritual brothers and sisters who “stick closer” than biological siblings. These friendships are like anchors that keep me grounded and stable. The greatest friendship, however, is the shared relationship with my Lord Jesus who calls me his friend. It is he alone who truly knows me to the depths of my being and loves me in spite of my warts and my moods. It is he alone who will never leave me or forsake me. This same promise is true for you.

Proud to be your friend,

Greg

P.S. The upcoming Denominational Celebration will certainly have the fabric and feel of an International Day of Friendship. It will be a time that we can see our GCI friends around the world and hear marvelous stories of what our friend Jesus has been doing in us and through us. I hope to see you July 23-25!

 

7 thoughts on “Anam Cara”

  1. Beautiful tradition to keep.
    It is part of our habits now & we’ll continue to highlight it for others to see. Thank you for pointing it out.
    Fil & Goy Santos
    Stoney Creek, Ontario
    Canada

  2. TRUE „soul mates“ are most precious and rare. To be loved unconditionally is a sacred gift. It is a great blessing to feel the freedom to be transparent with the assurance that trust will not be betrayed. Our Lord is the „ultimate friend“. He willingly sacrificed his life so that we may experience eternity. In my darkest moments he has been my partner and counselor, When I needed correction he has been there for me. Thank you, Jesus.

  3. Thanks Pastor Greg, Isn’t this a great concept to keep in mind as we endeavor to participate in the three Avenues and especially our connect groups. It’s amazing to realize that as James tells us to count our trials as joy that trials reveal who our true friends really are. See you and many more of our GCI fellowship on Celebration Weekend!

  4. The book “Anam Cara ” by irish author John Odonahue is certainly worth reading .[Anam Cara is irish for Soul Mate]

  5. Thanks Greg for this encouragement about friendship that goes beyond our biological brother which involves One who has made us all One in Himself Loved unconditionally and without judgement in the body of Christ, we have found that friendship! Mt 12:50, Mt 19:27-29

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